Finding Purpose

As women in midlife, finding purpose can be both a challenge and a transformative journey. Purpose gives life meaning and direction, encompassing family, career, personal passions, and daily choices. It's essential to recognize that not having a clear purpose is normal, and self-discovery will provide insights over time. While there's no perfect moment to start this journey, be mindful of excuses that may hold you back. Confronting fear and uncertainty is crucial for personal growth, and overcoming barriers requires self-compassion, support, and realistic goals. Embrace your passions, reflect on your values, and cultivate a purposeful mindset to create a meaningful and fulfilling life

Finding purpose is not a purely intellectual exercise. It’s not something you can simply figure out in your head. The truth is, discovering your purpose requires action, experimentation, and willingness to take risks. Active Dabbling—as we like to call it—is the process of getting out of your comfort zone and trying new things. By actively engaging with the world, you’ll gain valuable insights about what truly resonates with you and brings you fulfillment. This journey might be scary, but embracing the hero’s journey is how you’ll slay those metaphorical dragons and overcome your fears.

Commitment, not motivation, is the driving force behind successful purpose-seeking. Motivation is fleeting, but commitment remains steadfast. Develop a disciplined practice that prioritizes your purpose-seeking journey, regardless of external demands or distractions. Dedicate focused work, hours logged, and sweat equity to your pursuit. Acknowledging the importance of being able to work through challenges and maintain focus will help you overcome obstacles and find your true calling.

Parents who actively pursue personal growth and purpose provide a powerful model for their children to follow. By reinvesting time and energy into their own development, they demonstrate the importance of individuation and balance in family dynamics. A good rule of thumb is to allocate at least 25% of your energy towards your personal growth during your children's adolescence and young adulthood. This approach not only benefits you but also fosters a healthy environment for your children's development. The META PROCESS of living out the values they hope to instill in their children—such as cultivating identity capital and nurturing both strong and loose ties—empowers their kids to pursue their own growth and development. Ultimately, activating your own purpose as a parent is an invaluable gift that strengthens family bonds and equips the next generation with essential skills for a thriving life.

Takeaways:

Prioritize Self-Investment:

Shift your focus to personal growth by dedicating at least 25% of your energy to self-development and purpose.

Embrace Active Dabbling:

Allow curiosity to guide you in exploring new interests and experiences. Take action to discover what truly resonates with you.

Accept the Learning Process:

Be open to being a beginner, making mistakes, and learning from them. Let others support and encourage your growth.

Commit to Consistent Practice:

Rely on dedication, not motivation, to drive your purpose-driven journey. Develop a consistent practice to help you overcome obstacles and stay focused.

Identify Purpose through Skill Sets, Curiosity, and Outward Extension:

Combine your unique skills, interests, and desire to contribute to the world to uncover your purpose.

Recognize the Emotional Signs of Purpose:

Fear, excitement, and a continued desire to learn and grow are indicators that you're on a meaningful path forward.

Embrace the Journey:

Despite the challenges, pursuing your purpose brings personal growth, self-respect, and expanded horizons, making the effort worthwhile.